
This write is in relation to the last one. The other girl/women. The other girl is not always a bad thing. I was stuck in a long-term relationship. It was hitting its 5.5th year. I wanted so much to end it many times but could never bring myself to. I pitied him very much. I also made the golden mistake of stripping myself down to make him feel like more of a man. Basically fueling his insecurity and ego. I stopped loving him.
Then we were over. I knew intuitively it was going to end. I also sensed that other girl for over 6 months but he violently denied it to the extent of asking me to get psychological help.
You would think I would be upset and full of anger and hatred for her. No. None. Deep down I thanked the god lord for sending her to take him away. I was doing a bad job of getting rid of him myself. The universe knew my inner desires so it created the best circumstance for it to end. We were 7hours away from each other in different continents, I was in a demanding journalism career with a non-conventional work schedule and back to living with my family and old friends who all expressed their disdain and dislike for him. So I did my part. I pushed him. I did all the things he didn't like me doing. Consciously and subconsciously.
My tears stemmed from watching the break up unfold, the person I use to know wash away slowly, the fact that I had to let him go but pretend to hold on and that my life was no longer going to resemble anything I had ever known.
During the year after, few people asked me if I knew about her. I smiled and said yes. Inside I wished the girl the best of luck and blessed her. Only my closest friends realized I was not perturbed and more relieved than anything else. I was enjoying the freedom I had longed for. Singlehood. Meeting new people, doing all the things I loved with no worries at the back of my mind, in the city I longed to be at, growing spiritually, emotionally, mentally and ageing too. My spirit was so light that I made new friends, soul friends, strengthened family and old friend ties and met more interesting men!
All this time I was very silent about everything. Thenone of my best soul friends uncovered my little secret. He knew I had planned and pushed and did not care.
To this day should and if anyone brings him and her up, I always bless them with my love and wish them the best. I thank her soul for saving me from years of anguish, anxiety, misery and endless tears.
Thank You

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